5 Truths About: Why And How To Accept Ourselves The Way We Are

Why And How To Accept Ourselves

Have you noticed how good your day is when you wake up and feel happy right from the moment you opened your eyes? Self-esteem has a fundamental role in our daily lives, the easier we accept who we are, the faster we start working on making our dreams come true.

Becoming self-conscious of why you are the way you are, makes it easier to realize what you would like to change about it, but also allows us to understand that some things can’t be changed (at least form one day to another) and that we can actually live happily accepting us the way we are.

Today I would love to tell you why you should accept yourself before making any major changes in your life, and then I will give you some tips to achieve self-acceptance to help you gain some confidence and give you some strength to keep on moving.

Why Accepting Ourselves Is So Important

Some people believe they walk around life with a giant black cloud above their heads, they call it bad luck, karma, and other names just to feel like they don’t have control over it, but the truth is quite different.

There are some things we can’t truly change, but what we can actually do is change the way we face them. For example: maybe we have some extra pounds and want to lose them, but you also have troubles committing yourself with exercise.

If you see how beautiful you already are and how even more beautiful you could be, making a routine like going to the gym after work will be less exhausting, because you get a different motivation: improving something, instead of changing it from the root.

Self-acceptance is something we can nurture, it takes time and effort, but being able to see who you really are is totally worth it.

Constantly rejecting the way you feel or look sabotages your entire view of life, and it will irremediably affect the way you deal with troubles, interact with other people and makes everything in life so much harder!

Not accepting yourself makes you feel unhappy, causes you trouble with your confidence, makes you develop low self-esteem and makes you pursue the wrong goals in life, it’s basically a giant waste of time and great experiences.

So if you are feeling low, don’t know how to wake up in the morning without feeling sad, if it’s hard for you to look yourself in the mirror, if you avoid social interactions because you don’t feel “cool enough”, here are some tips to help you accept yourself.

Stop Comparing Yourself With Others

We all have different skills and we move in different contexts, comparing yourself with that coworker that gets promoted often is useless if you just feel jealousy and don’t start analyzing why that’s happening.

Maybe they have it easier at home, or they study harder, or they challenge themselves more often than you do.

Independently of the reason they are doing better than you, the important thing is to see how you evolve daily, and if there’s something you know it’s not well done, you now see what it is and you can learn how to change it.

You can be a better person than yesterday every day.

Define Yourself By Your Achievements

When you stop seeing how bad you are at something and instead try seeing how good you are at something else, you notice that you are not useless at all, you just have different skills that can be used in a different context.

Don’t be so hard on yourself! Compare your progress with how you were a few days ago if you are learning something new and it’s getting harder to keep going, stop for a few minutes and notice how much you have learned until that day.

If you just focus on what you are doing wrong, you feel stuck in life and you lose motivation easier, which only delays your trip to happiness.

Create Your Support System

Friends and family are the two pillars for self-acceptance, sometimes is good to see ourselves from the eyes of the people who love us, they see the good things in us way faster than we do.

If you surround yourself with negative people that complaints constantly instead of looking for solutions, people that criticize you often or simply somebody that takes away the light of your life with their bad energy, you need to make some changes.

Get rid of the people that don’t provide anything good in your life, and pamper those that show you the good and the bad parts of you for your personal growth.

Forgive Yourself

What’s in the past does not stay in the past forever, but you can learn to live with it.

Forgive yourself for being clumsy on a date, for always being late, for not looking like a supermodel, for emotionally hurting someone.

Constantly remembering the past and feeling bad for something you did or the way you acted interferes with your self-acceptance.

Instead of always feeling regrets, you can analyze the situation that haunts you, recognize what you did wrong, why you did it and how you can avoid repeating it.

It not only lets you see more clearly how your mind works; it also pushes you to move on.

Do Something That Makes You Feel Amazing Every Day

Help someone that really needs it, instead of exploding towards somebody, count to ten, breath and try to see things their way.

See how good looking you are, and if you don’t feel that handsome or pretty that day, take a good shower! Comb your hair, wear a killing outfit, something that lets you see, at least for a minute, that you may not be perfect, but you do are beautiful.

Learn new stuff, do some exercise, go to a karaoke bar, grab a drink with your friends, tell your parents you love them, say you are sorry.

You see, it’s not about trying to be perfect, it’s about understanding that we all have our pros and cons and that accepting ourselves the way we are will help us be a better person.

The change does come from within, but we must decide that we want it, even if we don’t completely understand what kind of change.

Also, remember that there are others out there having the same struggle you are having, so being kind without expecting anything in return will make everyone’s live, included yours, easier.

There’s no need to be rude with others, and before getting into a fight, stand back and think if it’s really worth it.

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38 thoughts on “5 Truths About: Why And How To Accept Ourselves The Way We Are”

  1. Knowing our flaw is step closer to self improvement whi h takes us toward embracing our existence. But, it’s equally important that we stay consistent with our character, and remain true to ourselves. We can’t change when we are not ready for it. When we are not ready, we face a head wind of resistance. Opposing self is a form deception which deceives others. Standing by who we are not makes us a hypocrite. Better to coexist with the flaw than to hide it. After all, who is to claim perfection, and free of sins.

    Change cannot simply be taught, it needs proper guidance. Like students need a guru, and children need parents.

    Great write-up. Thank you.

  2. Great article. I totally agree with you. It’s very important to accept ourselves the way they are. It is a lifelong course that we have to practise everyday, it is pure self love. It is the same way we accept and love our partner.

  3. I like the idea of pampering the people in our lives who see the best in us. It’s a form of gratitude. I also like that you emphasize that we are all “works in progress” and that it is most productive to celebrate the steps we’ve taken to grow and improve. Very wise!

  4. “Self-acceptance is something we can nurture, it takes time and effort, but being able to see who you really are is totally worth it.” This spoke out a lot to me.

    There are a lot times when doubt myself and my capabilities but at the end of the day it simply boils down to self acceptance. What a great reminder. Have a great day ?

  5. “And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself” Matthew 22:39

    To truly love others you must be able to accept and love yourself. It is the freedom of grace which enables us to live life fully…


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  6. ?hanks for sharing!!!

    “When we accept ourselves for what we are, we decrease our hunger for power or the acceptance of others because our self-intimacy reinforces our inner sense of security. We are no longer preoccupied with being powerful or popular. We no longer fear criticism because we accept the reality of our human limitations. Once integrated, we are less often plagued with the desire to please others because simply being true to ourselves brings lasting peace. We are grateful for life and we deeply appreciate and love ourselves.”

    – Brennan Manning, The Ragamuffin Gospel


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