Friends are something everyone wants and needs, but some of us have trouble making them for various reasons from being too shy to be too overbearing. That’s what leads people to read Dale Carnegie’s best-selling book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People.”
“Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.” – Dale Carnegie
The Perfect Gift For Any Occasion
Even though this book was written quite some time ago in 1936, there are still many good reasons to read it if you are having trouble making friends. The book has sold over 15 million copies, so Carnegie has to have done something right in writing it! Thousands of famous people have also endorsed it and followed its guidelines in both their personal and business lives with great success.
So, the top reason to read the book is that the advice is still relevant and can be applied to life even in the 21st century. But you can’t just read the principles the author talks about in the book, you have to actually apply them on a daily basis if you expect to be successful at making friends or in influencing people in everything from daily life to business deals.
Advice That Will Change Your Life
Of course, some of the main reasons to read the book are the actual pieces of advice in it. For instance, Carnegie says one should try to honestly see things from another person’s perspective, in other words, to put yourself in their shoes.
That is advice that is still key today as much as it was back in the 1930s when the book was written. If you don’t have this ability, then you can’t get into the other person’s head so you can sync yourself up with them and once you have learned more about each other, it’s much easier to become friends.
“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.” – Dale Carnegie
Be Sympathetic With The Other Person’s Ideas And Desires
Another thing Carnegie says is that we need to be more sympathetic to other people’s desires and ideas. Everyone you meet has their own opinion about something, and nowadays so many people don’t try to respect that and instead get offended just because that person’s ideas or opinions differ from theirs. But this book teaches us that it’s vital to at least try to respect that person’s thoughts. You don’t have to agree with them, but learning to respect others helps you to become a more rounded individual who people will be more willing to respect and become friends with.
Carnegie also tells readers that they need to let the other person talk as much as possible, and this teaches us the skill of listening. That is a great reason to read the book because if you don’t learn how to listen, then you won’t be a very popular person.
He also adds that we need to make the other person honestly feel important in some way. Everyone wants to feel important and useful in life and that teaches us another valuable reason for reading the book, because if we learn how to do these things, then it makes life better for ourselves and everyone we meet.
Make A Good Impression And Learn How To Deal With People
Another reason to read the book is because it’s for anyone of us who wants to learn how to make a good impression and learn how to deal with people. Any doesn’t that apply to all of us? We can hardly go through life without learning how to do that and expect to have good results, so this book does people a great service by showing and teaching them that vital principle.
The book teaches us lots of ways to be likable, which makes it easier to handle not only meeting and making new friends but also how to handle current relationships so they will last longer and be more secure. These lessons will make the reader a better person in these and many other ways and the world can always use a few more confident people who also try to make others feel more confident about themselves too. These principles also help the reader become a better leader as well as a better friend, and the world can also use more leaders as well.
Carnegie’s book is rather like an instruction manual on life in a lot of ways. It isn’t just a book that helps you to learn how to make friends, it can also teach you how to like yourself better and learn how to be more at ease with the world and the people in it. Once that is learned, it is simple to make friends and also to influence others to do things and be successful in it.
You Have To Smile
Carnegie says you have to smile, be nice and listen to people you want to win over. Isn’t that so simple? We can all do those things if we just try and not think of only ourselves all the time. These days people seem to be overly offended and think that just because someone is a different color or religion or nationality that they can’t be their friend. But this books proves that is not true. You can be friends with anyone. You just have to respect each other and realize that if we didn’t have differences, then the world would be a very boring place.
His book also teaches us that we must acknowledge our own errors, as the best leaders are the people who don’t look for their own glory, but learn how to help others succeed and become great in their own ways. That is a great reason for reading this timeless book.
All in all, there are countless reasons to read Dale Carnegie’s book, “How to win friends and influence people.” Don’t let the fact it was written in the 30s stop you from reading a book that will likely help you not only now, but for the rest of your life.