What Is Personal Growth And Why You Need It
What is personal growth? It’s a continuous process of learning to understand and develop yourself to your best potential. It’s also a crucial part of becoming a mature adult who is successful and happy. And it’s the basis of all kinds of health: physical, as well as emotional, spiritual and emotional.
“Every moment of one’s existence, one is growing into more or retreating into less.” – Norman Mailer
Personal growth profoundly affects every part of your life. As our personal growth occurs, we start to learn more, and that, in turn, motivates us and we feel better about ourselves and the world in general. It means we are developing the top imaginable version of ourselves. It is something everyone wants and needs to do so they can be happy with themselves, have a good personality, a good mindset, and develop the needed steppingstones for a better life.
There are many ways to build and grow our personal growth, as well as get the inspiration to do it, and some of these include:
Viktor E. Frankl said in his book Man’s Search for Meaning, “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” What that means is sometimes we can’t change whatever other people might be doing good or bad, we can’t force anyone to help us grow in the personal direction we desire. Therefore, if we desire to change something in our own lives, it’s up to us to do it because we are the only ones who understand what we want.
The religious leader Gandi said, “Be the change you want to see in this world.” That’s a powerful statement and it means we have to practice what we preach. In other words, we have to take responsibility for what we do because it is no one’s fault or success than our own. Complaining about anything won’t get it done, only if we help make the change will it happen.
Friedrich Nietzsche said in his book, Thus Spoke Zarathustra, “He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.” What this means is we all must discover and internalize our true life’s purpose. Plus, we are capable of overcoming just about anything if we realize the importance of approaching even the most difficult task by recognizing the importance of attaining whatever the end goal is. As another saying goes, “the end always justifies the means.”
Having personal growth wouldn’t be possible unless we are true to ourselves. The Dalai Lama once said, “In our struggle for freedom, truth is the only weapon we possess.” If you are asking yourself if what’s going on in your life currently (i.e. current decisions, your current job, etc.) is what you truly desire, then instead of rationalizing it you should listen to whatever your first instinctive answer to the question is. While the truth isn’t always something we want to hear about something, only by listening to the truth will we gain personal growth in our lives.
Eckhart Tolle said in their book, The Power of Now, that “Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness.” What that means is there aren’t any short cuts in life and we can’t really cheat our way through life because eventually, we will fall flat on our faces. We have to use all the situation in our life to grow our personal growth, whether these experiences were good or bad. We must learn from our mistakes and move on.
Don Miguel Ruiz said in his book, “The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom That” we shouldn’t take anything personally, people really aren’t doing something just because of anything you did or aid. What someone else says and does comes from their reality or dream, not yours and we should become immune to whatever people think of us so we won’t end up a victim of unneeded sufferings. If we learn not to take things so personally, we can’t be hurt by the deeds or actions of others. To know this is hugely empowering for our personal growth.
The great teacher Buddha is thought to have said, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” What that means is there is nothing to be gained in getting angry or wanting revenge on someone. It just brings more pain and suffering. Being angry is a choice and so is refusing to get angry. If you want to grow in your personal growth you must learn how to eliminate anger. All getting angry does is raise your blood pressure and make you say or do things you are most likely going to regret.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said in some of his writings, “What we fear of doing most is usually what we most need to do.” Fear is actually a compass that points us to where we need to be in order to grow our personal growth. This doesn’t mean legit fears like avoiding dangers like being afraid of getting hit by a car, thus we look both ways before crossing a street. What this means is we need to learn how to deal with our little everyday fears like financial woes or worrying we are too fat. Instead of being scared of those things, we have to learn how to properly deal with them, i.e. get a better job to solve the money fear or start a diet and eat healthy to relieve the other fear.
Personal Growth: Conclusion
All and all we can only grow our personal growth when we are challenged mentally and physically and push ourselves to do better, don’t make self-created roadblocks to our own success, be honest with ourselves, gain some self-esteem and learn to love ourselves. That helps us become useful members of society and don’t be afraid to make a few mistakes on the way as long as you learn from them.