When two people tie the knot, they aren’t doing it because they figure in a year or two they will get a divorce. They expect to love and cherish each other forever. But sometimes bad things happen and you may feel your marriage is doomed and there is no hope to save it. However, in most cases this is not true at all!
“A husband and wife may disagree on many things but they must absolutely agree on this: to never, ever give up.” – Unknown
If you truly want to save your marriage and become happy again, here are some things that show your union still has some hope of success:
You Are Aware Neither Of You Are Perfect
When you first got married it’s likely you believed that each of you were perfect and had no faults. As they say, love is blind and you may not see any faults in the first waves of love and lust. However, if you understand that there are things each of you do that set each other off and know there have been times when you did something hurtful, then you can see how your actions are the catalyst to causing bad reactions.
If you can truly see this, then you can put yourself into each other’s shoes and try to understand how doing things in certain ways can cause problems, and that you still want to repair the damage this has caused, then there’s still some hope the marriage can be saved. Try to be more empathetic to each other and learn why you fell in love in the first place. No one is perfect, and once you learn that you can rebuild your relationship by understanding each other’s needs and forgiving each other’s faults.
Both Of You Believe That Family Should Come First
If you are married with kids, then you must understand that divorce isn’t the best thing for them to go through no matter their ages. Do you still enjoy doing things together as a family like going to the movies, out to eat, or playing games or other group activities. If you have to do this with the empty chair of your spouse speaking volumes, does it hurt you deep inside? If so, that means you still have some love left for them. It could mean it’s worth trying to keep your family together and learn how to love your spouse once again. Yes in some cases staying together for the kids may not be smart, but in the majority of cases, if the idea of going at it alone makes you sad, then make an attempt at least once more to keep your family intact.
Discover Why You Fell In Love In The First Place
How can two people feel head over heels in love at one moment, and seemingly the next they want to get far away from each other? If you want to save your marriage, you need to get to the bottom of why the two of you fell in love in the first place. There has to be a good reason that you can find that is worth saving. Get yourself into the proper mindset to understand the reasons you loved each other and discuss if they are still true now. It’s silly to ask for a divorce if all that’s wrong is your spouse didn’t pick up their dirty laundry or dinner was late or they forget your birthday, etc. Getting divorced at the first sign of an argument is not right, and sometimes you can learn more from a problem and it makes your relationship even stronger!
Try To Talk To One Another And Communicate Better
Proper communication is key to saving any failing marriage, as well as maintain a strong marriage. If you’ve stopped talking to each other there is no way you can save your relationship, and you have to begin talking again if you want a change to save your marriage. So, begin small by at least listening to what the other person is saying to you whether it is something as simple as pass me the salt to as serious as trying to break down how you got to these relationship problems and how you plan to fix them. Doing this can be the way to uncover all the things that made your marriage great in the first place and help you revive those things now. Remember, listening is key to any relationship.
Don’t Allow Life’s Distractions To Be What Gets In The Way Of A Good Relationship
Life can be hectic, and sometimes we let all the distractions and little issues get in the way of our relationship with each other. Of course, everyone has things that they must handle such as their job, the kids, the bills, etc. But you must figure out a way to compartmentalize them and still save a portion of your time for each other. You can help each other be stronger and more able to handle those distractions rather than letting them put a wedge between each other and ruining your relationship.
You promised each other to love one another through thick and thin, richer or poorer and good health or bad, so you should both take those vows seriously and take the time to learn how to do it. Marriage isn’t 50/50, it is 100/100 and each person has to put in the effort to make it a lasting and good partnership.
The bottom line is that sometimes there are reasons for a divorce, i.e. infidelity is a biggie for most couples, but separating for trivial reasons is just a copout and if you truly love one another there are still ways to save your marriage and come out stronger in the long run when you have learned from the experience.