Fear Of Failure: The Only Thing Limiting You From Achieving Your Dreams

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Everyone is bound to experience fear at some point in their life. Especially in the world, we are living in today, failure is portrayed as a taboo and people won’t even talk about it. For that reason, even the mention of the word failure probably makes the skin of most people crawl. But the worst thing about this is that we all know failure is there and for us to succeed we must know how to deal with it first. Or even better, learn how to use fear to our benefit.

“Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.” – Og Mandino

Quite often, the fear of failure is what gets in the way of most peoples’ vision in life. To an extent that they will never give in to the fact that failure is what is holding them back. But what everyone forgets is that to make greater steps in the future, one must first learn how to conquer the fear they have to fail and then push through.

Fear could have a whole myriad of effects on our lives but what we know for sure is that fear has a great impact on our emotions. And in most cases, our emotions are connected to the decisions we make. This means that someone who is afraid of making mistakes is likely to have a pessimistic view of the world. This way, they will not be able to experience what life has to offer in full package.

Failure and Causes of Fear of Failure

Everyone had their own definition of failure as we all have different belief systems and values. This means, what one person might consider as a failure, to someone else it might be just another great learning experience. It’s perfectly normal to be afraid at times. But when it gets to atychiphobia, fear of failure, this can stop us from pursuing the dreams we have and hence hindering us from achieving our goals.

The fear of failure is not something that you wake up with one day. It could be linked to so many things including lack of support from parents. You will find that atychiphobia comes from people who’ve faced a lot of humiliation in their childhood. What’s more, such people have not let go of those feelings even when they are older.

A good example of what I’m talking about is the aftermath of a traumatic experience. For instance; maybe a couple of years ago in college, you did a class presentation before your colleagues and performed poorly. Such a terrible experience may make you afraid of public speaking. You might never try it again since you will be afraid to make the same mistakes twice. It’s a once bitten twice shy scenario. But don’t just give up yet. Continue reading and I will show you how to deal with your fears.

The Best Way To Conquer Fear Of Failure

Identify The Origin Of Your Fear

The fear of failure could be triggered by a couple of things and for you to overcome it the first step is identifying its root source. There are four major causes of fear of failure which include; perfectionism, over personalization, bad patterns from childhood, and false self-confidence.

It’s important that you identify the cause that resonates with you. Believe it or not, by just naming the source of that fear takes away some power from it.

Rethink The Beliefs You Have About Your Goals

As much as most people like to deny, when you generalize everything, it could end up leaving you with literary nothing. In that case, it’s important that you have a clear vision about what you’d like to accomplish. At the same time, focus on getting more enlightened as you go.

When you set your mind on learning and improving yourself, you are less likely to worry about failure. You will find that most successful people invest in innovation and experimentation so that they can stay on top of their game. There is a big chance such people will fail a lot.

But the difference is; when they achieve their goals, they view all the stumbling blocks they had encountered along the process as just opportunities for growth. Pick up this sense of ‘adventure’ and you will become unstoppable. On top of that, failure will never be a hindrance in your life

Train Yourself To Think Positively

Most people will probably think that this is outrageous but we believe what we feed our minds. This means that how you behave and react to situations is basically influenced by the internal dialogues that we have.

It’s important to know that even the most successful people have encountered failure at some point in their lives despite the obsession the society has on success and perfectionism. Anyone who knows the story of Walt Disney will tell you that he was once fired from his workplace as they thought he was not creative enough.

It was then that he set his mind to start an animation studio that failed a couple of times. He never stopped believing in himself and today Disney is a big name. The same case applied to Jeff Bezos when he started Amazon after leaving his then current job.

Visualize what To Expect

There is nothing as scary in life as not knowing what will happen. That being the case, to eliminate the fear of failure you need to sit and visualize all the possible outcomes of the decision you are about to make. You should think about both the best and worst case outcomes.

The mental preparation for what could happen will make you feel better and have the courage to try. It’s common to find that most people out there miss big opportunities in life due to their fear of the unknown.

Have A Back-up Plan Ready

Well, having a back-up plan will never hurt. That is because nothing could be worse than scrambling for any possible solution when things go wrong. Also, having a back-up plan will give you more confidence to take risks.

The back-up will simply relieve you off all the anxiety you might be having about the possible outcome after failure.

In Summary

As discussed in the article above, fear of failure can cripple all your dreams. There are many reasons why we could be having such issues but the lucky thing is that they are plenty of ways to deal with it too. Next time you have a big plan but your fear of failure is keeping you from taking the risk, just remember that failure is just a source of inspiration and learning. And for that reason, there is nothing to be ashamed of.

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Interesting Books

  • Creative Visualization: Use the Power of Your Imagination to Create What You Want in Your Life By Shakti Gawain
  • Visualization Power: How Scientists, Inventors, Businessmen, Artists, Athletes, Healers and Yogis Can Improve Their Powers of Visualization and Visual Thinking By Bill Bodri
  • How to Win Friends & Influence People By Dale Carnegie
  • The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speaking By Dale Carnegie

40 thoughts on “Fear Of Failure: The Only Thing Limiting You From Achieving Your Dreams”

  1. Great post again! I actually failed twice before finally hitting it right. We need to learn from mistakes and go forward armed with what we have learned. I think that people often get embarrassed from failure so give up before they start. And a backup plan is always a good idea, prevents us from making quick and unwise decisions. Enjoyed this very much. Helps me with an idea I have been pondering.

    • Hi Steve, thank you very much for your kind words, it’s always a pleasure to get feedback from you, a person with lots of wisdom and inspiring life lessons! Have a wonderful weekend Steve! Hope you feel wonderful!

        • Hi Steve, that’s wonderful. Wow, I’m surprised you guys still have snow 🙂 Thank you, sorry I’m a bit late on the reply.

          • Yes, it is going to start getting milder here later in the week, I hope it’s true! Today we had snow, rain and ice pellets. But it mainly melted already. Have a great evening!

          • Good evening Steve, thank you very much you too! Steve, I’m excited to see more wonderful photos of Nature, wildlife on your blog, probably late spring, or summer – the best times for it, right? 🙂

          • Yes indeed, late spring and summer is the best time with the greatest variety. I hope to really increase the number of different species this year too. I’m also hoping to get a better camera so I don’t have to get so close to my subjects. Had a big black bear on my deck last night, sure would have liked to get his pic, but going outside with him just didn’t seem like a good idea!

          • Hi Steve, wow you live in such a wonderful place, I love wildlife! Steve, do you have anything like: “Trail Camera” it’s basically independent camera you can place on your deck or tree and it will take picture when for example bear would come close to it(definitely won’t be easy to get a perfect photo shot with it…). I just went to Amazon.com to find something, and here is what I found:
            1) https://www.amazon.com/stores/node/15090100011?_encoding=UTF8&field-lbr_brands_browse-bin=BlazeVideo&ref_=bl_dp_s_web_15090100011

          • Hey, that looks cool, would definitely be a safe way to get photos of the bears around here! Thanks for pointing that out, I will check it out in more detail later today. Have a great day!

  2. Basketball great Michael Jordan talks about how his many failures in playing the game of basketball (such as missing a potential game- winning shot, losing games) actually led him to even more success.

    • Hi Natalie, such a wonderful blog, I love how you do illustrations with text over, can you please share which program you use.. it looks amazing! I’ve read your article, my favorite person is Oprah, and it’s so interesting that she did not get a job because – “she was unfit for TV.” I’m thinking.. how many interviews I’ve personally failed because of the same reason!

      • That’s great feedback! I actually was experimenting with the illustrations so I’m glad you are enjoying it. I use “Canva” it’s also an app if you’re not close to your laptop/computer and it’s seriously amazing! SO easy to use ?

        • Hi Natalie, thank you very much, I’m going to try Canva, hopefully, I can design something beautiful! Have a wonderful weekend, Natalie ?

  3. People often ask me why I have been so successful in my writing endeavors. My answer has always been that I am simply not afraid of failing because I know I won’t. Sounds cocky but you HAVE to believe in yourself to accomplish anything.

  4. Thanks for this post! I almost let fear stop me from writing my story. The first post I made-I wanted to throw up. Seriously sick. But little by little—it’s getting easier. And now 10 posts later—the fear is replaced with gratitude and humility.
    Nice to meet you!

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